My friends say that my 'dream' in life is old fashioned, am I strange?
Posted by pano | Under Herb Garden Thursday Jul 29, 2010Hi there,
Sometimes I find myself repressing some of my true desires in life from my friends or family. They all seem to think I’m strange or old fashioned. I guess it’s because my friends and family are all metropolitan of sorts or raised in cities. I was too but I have a different view.
This is what I desire: I want to live on a piece of land with trees and a small holding farm. Nothing big, just maybe some chickens, a HUGE garden and all kinds of fruits and veggies. I fantasize about spending warm summer afternoons canning fruit with the kids, picking herbs from the garden, showing the children how carrots are grown. I dream of sitting on a porch looking at beautiful nature and letting the breeze run though the house. I want to get AWAY from generalized society. I don’t want a fancy car, I don’t want a huge house, I don’t want the latest purse or sunglasses. I just want to get back to basics. I’m embarrassed when I go for lunch with my lady friends and they talk about what their husbands purchased for them, and all I can think about is "gosh I wouldn’t want that.." I can appreciate that they have different views, and that’s what makes life interesting, but I feel compelled to ‘fit in’ so to speak.
How do I let myself be me, and be okay with my goals and dreams even when they don’t fit into the societal goal of more accumulation and material goods = wealth, scheme of things?
I already have some land that belonged to my great grandparents when they settled here – it’s completely over grown and undeveloped, but it’s true, it’s quite difficult to establish ones self in that manner these days…isn’t if funny how we’ve made it so difficult on our selves to keep it simple?
re: "sexaliciouslatina" – I don’t understand how living closer to one’s means and closer to nature is considered unrealistic. Isn’t living beyond your means with a stuffed double car garage with a Starbucks franchised mind-set a little unrealistic? Sooner or later the blatant unsustainable illusion will collapse like a sand castle in the tide, that’s what I believe anyhow.
Your dream is old fashioned……….and fantastic. And it doesn’t have to be just a dream. Do it. It is how many of us grew up years ago. And when I retire will again. Good luck to you, and don’t let anyone change your mind about it.
actually ur friends r old. get new friends. not ur dream…
Wow, who wouldn’t want that lifestyle? You’re normal in every way. This is how humans spent most of their history.
However breaking loose into the country isn’t so easy anymore, I’m afraid. The countryside isn’t the same anymore with all the technology and zoning ordinances and so on. And you’re still talking about the accumulation of a large parcel of land.
Its your life not their’s
You make the rules
not old fashioned, but unrealistic trust me i want that to. i want to be an alaskan goat farmer. it actually takes a lot of money to live like that
How is that bad? You have an excellent dream/ aspiration. To the hell with your so called "friends" they don’t sound like true friends to me if the judge you on your goals in life. Nice to know there are still some intelligent and humble people in the world.
I think your dream is perfectly fine. Maybe more Americans should adopt your dream, then maybe we wouldnt have such a huge deficit from buying things we cannot afford. Dont let anyone make you feel bad about your true desires..